Self Care Coaching When You Feel Like You’re Out of Your Depth

I’m between moves and it’s another big week with a lot happening. I’m grateful for all of it but I realised yesterday afternoon that I needed to be underwater to let it all sink in a bit. So I cycled over to the sea (I don’t think I’ll ever get…

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Self Care for Our Own and Others’ Narcissistic Wounding

Since a certain person in a powerful position was running for said powerful position nearly four years ago, people have been throwing around diagnoses of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which even psychiatrists aren’t qualified to make from afar) with abandon. I’m a counsellor. I don’t diagnose. But I can hypothesise. Many…

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Couch Coaching: If Nola Darling Came to Me for Coach-Therapy

In this occasional blog series, I imagine fictional/historical characters coming to me for coach-therapy. Today, it’s Nola Darling (played by DeWanda Wise) from the TV reboot of She’s Gotta Have It. Nola: I thought I was fine but I maced some random guy last night. Friend: You what? Nola: All…

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How Do You Scare Yourself in a GOOD Way?

I live so far out of my comfort zone, I often consider changing my name to Scaredy McScaredface. This morning’s adventure was different as it was purely for FUN. I won’t have a long enough break between clients later so wanted to go for a bike ride earlier on. And,…

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Leaps of Faith

This time three months ago, I’d been in limbo for months. I’d signed the paperwork to exchange in January, the buyers had pulled out in early Feb (second time the sale had fallen through at Exchange) and then got back on board but it was all happening very slowly. With…

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When Does Fear Hold You Back? When Does it HELP You?

I fear I forgot my microphone so hope you can hear enough of today’s video about fears holding us back and also helping us. As the Summer Solstice approaches and we think about our place in the world and our contributions, it’s so easy to get stuck in fear. Here…

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Does Self Care Feel Like a Treat or a Chore?

I’m beyond blessed to live in such stunning surroundings – it took ages for me to get here and I worked at it but I appreciate it all so much. The spot above is a mere 20 minute stroll from where I live – and that includes loads of stopping…

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Highlights from Resilience Week 2

My own resilience has been tested a lot this week – beaurocracy around moving countries. In spite of everything, it’s comforting to recognise that my resilience is way better now than it was in the past and, of course, the spectacular views help me keep that bigger picture in mind…

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