Do You Ever Feel Like Anxiety Means You Can’t Even Contemplate Feeling or Doing Better?

Trigger warning: While Catherine’s story is inspirational, the horrors she is bravely facing even when it’s so tempting to look the other way are heartbreaking even to read about. I’m including links about the mother and baby home abuses and Tuam babies rather than detailing them here. I hear ye….

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Happy 20 Year Soberversary to Me!

This month (July), it’s 20 years since I quit drinking alcohol (had quit cigarettes that February). To honour it, and hopefully help others going through similar, here are 20 things I think 25 Year Old Me would have benefitted from knowing 1) Yes it’s worth it 2) Yes, you can…

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Bridging the Gap Between Where We Are and Where We Want to Be

This morning’s yoga wasn’t as luxurious as the past few days’. But I still included Bridge Pose in my shorter sequence. If you have the book, there’s more about Bridge Pose for 11/3 (p52). It’s a wonderful pose to help prepare the body for sleep (but ideally done long before…

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What Might Help You Speak Up for Yourself More?

Did you read about Emilia Clarke’s early film set experiences in today’s Metro? While I doubt (though ‘Welcome!’ if you ARE) many Hollywood stars are reading this, we can probably all relate on some level. When you relfect back over your life so far, does an incident spring to mind…

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Butterflies, Moths, Trauma and Transformation

I’ve been thinking a lot about butterflies and moths lately. Both are amazing but I wish they wouldn’t fly into my face when I’m cycling (butterflies) or washing up (moths). Such beauty (both of them. Butterflies just have better PR). Caterpillars are cute, too. But while we all know that…

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Self Care for Our Own and Others’ Narcissistic Wounding

Since a certain person in a powerful position was running for said powerful position nearly four years ago, people have been throwing around diagnoses of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which even psychiatrists aren’t qualified to make from afar) with abandon. I’m a counsellor. I don’t diagnose. But I can hypothesise. Many…

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Highlights from Trauma Week 1

This week’s self care ideas are to help you support yourself with trauma (big T and little t – telling yourself that others have been through worse won’t help you heal as much as paying attention to what YOU need, be that time and space, therapy or something else). The…

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Wellbeing Wednesday: 7 self-care tips for World Mental Health Day

This week, we’re celebrating World Mental Health Day and noticing what works well as well as where we may need additional supports. When you think about ‘mental health’ do you imagine yourself or a loved one at their worst? Even though this is my area of work, I immediately remember…

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