With the Best Will in the World, Change can be Challenging

What helps you get stuff done? In psychosynthesis terms, the Will is as important an energy as Love. Where Love energy is very accepting, nurturing and holding, Will energy is more, ‘Right. Let’s DO this.’ We need both energies but typically, feel more affinity to one or the other. Without…

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How Will You Feel When You DO Whatever You’ve Been Putting Off?

We can so easily psyche ourselves out of doing things because we don’t want to feel the discomfort, pain or even inconvenience or doing what needs to be done. In NLP terms, people are either ‘towards’ or ‘away’. Towards people are motivated by the idea of what the effort will…

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Welcome to My New Westport Self Care Coaching, Therapy, Supervision, Yoga (and More) Space

Some call therapy the ultimate in self care. It’s not always easy but it’s a commitment to ourselves to show up each week* and address some of the things we’re ready to deal with. Because my focus is on self care, the clients who see the biggest most lasting improvements…

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Self Care Coaching to Help You Climb Life’s Metaphorical Mountains

When you think about the decade, year, month, week, days and hours ahead, what metaphorical mountains are you aware of? Which ones are challenges you’ve chosen for yourself? These might include house moves, new jobs, expanding families, big projects, activism, creative ambitions and more. What springs to mind for you?…

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Self Care Coaching Ideas for Bringing Some Holiday Cheer Into Your New Year

I took this video during today’s (very cold) sea paddle to help you bring a few moments of calm and peace into your day and ponder whatever lights YOU up. What brings you joy? What do you want MORE of in 2020 and beyond? If you haven’t already started back…

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2 Night Sleep Retreat at Westport Country Lodge Hotel, Westport, Co Mayo, Ireland

We need our sleep. It helps us process memories, recharge, improve cognitive function, feel happy, well and rested and when we don’t get enough, we’re running on empty. Everything feels harder. How would it feel to commit to getting your sleep issues sorted as we enter this new decade? To…

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Essential Supports for Self Care

It’s all about the trees at the moment. Having planted them last Sunday, we staked them so they’ll (hopefully) grow strong and healthy. I had wonderful support for BOTH learning curves (am so far out of my depth, I’m becoming a little better at asking for and accepting support myself)….

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How Self Care is Far from a Luxury

When we’ve been ill, we quickly (or eventually) learn to pay closer attention to what our bodies need rather than trying to ignore that wisdom just because it feels inconvenient. We weren’t wired for modern 24/7 lifestyles. It’s no wonder our bodies and minds (and hearts and souls) sometimes need…

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Self Care for Our Own and Others’ Narcissistic Wounding

Since a certain person in a powerful position was running for said powerful position nearly four years ago, people have been throwing around diagnoses of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which even psychiatrists aren’t qualified to make from afar) with abandon. I’m a counsellor. I don’t diagnose. But I can hypothesise. Many…

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The Sea and My Sobriety

18 years ago, I’d had minor surgery for finally diagnosed endometriosis but while no longer in daily pain, was still in more pain than I felt I could handle. And that was when I realised that, with no ‘cure’ I’d have to figure something out for myself. Yoga helped when…

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