Self Care Lessons from a Lamb

When I was little, I used to love sticking my head between the bannister on the stairs (I was probably quite a strange child). Most of the time, it would be easy to extract myself but sometimes, I’d panic and get my head stuck and I’d worry I’d have to…

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Our Need for Hope in Turbulent Times

In case you missed it, little Adam King on The Late Late Toy Show was the star of a sobtastic show. All the kids were amazing. And it was great for Ryan Tubridy to have company after his keeping people’s spirits up as far as possible without the usual audience…

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With the Best Will in the World, Change can be Challenging

What helps you get stuff done? In psychosynthesis terms, the Will is as important an energy as Love. Where Love energy is very accepting, nurturing and holding, Will energy is more, ‘Right. Let’s DO this.’ We need both energies but typically, feel more affinity to one or the other. Without…

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Where’s Your ‘Edge’ Today?

In yoga, we often talk about going only to our ‘edge’ – too little and we’re not pushing ourselves enough. Too far and we risk injury. Pose by pose, our edge varies. Sometimes, our edge changes due to injury or illness. Sometimes, it changes and we don’t even notice for…

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When We’re Nauseous With Pain and Almost Resist Helping Ourselves – Tune Into Your Body’s Wisdom

I went against my body’s wisdom last night and pushed pushed pushed (working until 4am) because I knew today would be one of my Bad Pain Days and I wanted, as far as possible, to be able to relax into it. With endometriosis and haemorrhagic ovarian cysts, I adopted some…

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Couch Coaching: Are You Motivated by Love or Fear?

In today’s Couch Coaching blog post, I’m imagining Angelina Jolie’s Malificent coming to me for online therapy. We’re all always making choices based on whether we’re, in that moment, being motivated by Love or Fear. Both archetypes are pretty powerful and, unfortunately, as you’ve experienced, we live in a world…

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Is Your Inner Self Care Police Person Draining Your Motivation?

Self care isn’t about adding yet more pressures to attempt to live up to

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Essential Supports for Self Care

It’s all about the trees at the moment. Having planted them last Sunday, we staked them so they’ll (hopefully) grow strong and healthy. I had wonderful support for BOTH learning curves (am so far out of my depth, I’m becoming a little better at asking for and accepting support myself)….

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How Self Care is Far from a Luxury

When we’ve been ill, we quickly (or eventually) learn to pay closer attention to what our bodies need rather than trying to ignore that wisdom just because it feels inconvenient. We weren’t wired for modern 24/7 lifestyles. It’s no wonder our bodies and minds (and hearts and souls) sometimes need…

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Self Care for Our Own and Others’ Narcissistic Wounding

Since a certain person in a powerful position was running for said powerful position nearly four years ago, people have been throwing around diagnoses of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which even psychiatrists aren’t qualified to make from afar) with abandon. I’m a counsellor. I don’t diagnose. But I can hypothesise. Many…

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