This is NOT an April Fools joke. What might help you feel more confident about trusting yourself, life and love?

We continue our sacral chakra journey with some simple self care ideas to support you in opening up to all the good life has to offer. Challenging with trauma histories but exceedingly worth it Read on for some simple self care ideas to support you and a new podcast episode…

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Learning to drive at 47 – thank GOD/DESS for all anxiety soothing self care tools I have

Learning to drive is bringing my anxious past flooding back but now, thankfully, I can talk myself down far faster. It’s also FUN… I’ve always had a vivid imagination and while this is often a good thing, it was terrible when I was younger before I even knew that cultivating…

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Feel better about yourself in 2023 by shifting your perspective

Imagine going into 2023 knowing that you don’t have to change a THING about yourself. Knowing with every fibre of your being that acceptance, self-compassion and self-love make it a gazillion times easier to change than endless stress response triggering self-loathing and bullying… ‘The best version of me is me…

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Does the idea of time with your extended family feel like torture?

Many people with trauma histories (or grief and loss of any kind) find family gatherings especially triggering. These simple self care ideas for trauma support will help you support yourself through this highly charged time of year.. I’m loving the new series / sweary reboot of Criminal Minds Evolution (you…

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Inner child work’s all fun and games until you end up blubbing in front of your clinical supervisor

Being a trauma therapist doesn’t mean I don’t still get triggered. I hope these self care ideas for trauma recovery help you and remind you of your existing resources… I’ve done an enormous amount of healing over the decades. Especially in the last 15 years. But on days like the…

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Simone Biles is GOAT* Inside and Outside the Gym ~ What Feels Like YOUR Olympics Today?

*GOAT = Greatest Of All Time Watching Simone Biles do her thing – Floor, Beam, Vault, Uneven Bars – is a usually a JOY. I started drafting this before today’s events had her pull out of the Team Final. I very much hope that she’ll, as Aly Raisman told Christiane…

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Couch Coaching: Self Care Lessons from Black Widow

I’m not really an action film kind of person but figured I’d been watching a lot of S.W.A.T. (efforts to bring about radical police reform from within the system) so went to the CINEMA for the first time this year (for the first time since Bill and Ted!) and belatedly…

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Who Are You Becoming?

It’s (in this hemisphere) the Summer Solstice on Monday. As I mention in the book, it’s a wonderful time to appreciate all the goodness and sweetness in our lives as well as looking at our commitments, contemplating our ‘public selves’ – our contributions to the world – and letting go…

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An Inspiration to So Many Trauma Survivors

Am drafting this while glued (seriously) to the 2nd Impeachment Trial. Last week, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (AOC) shared her experienced of hiding, fearing her impending death, on 6th January, while simply at work, doing her job. She was articulate and avoided hyperbole, repeatedly emphasising her impressions in the moment and what…

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Are You Making Life Harder than it Needs to Be?

Do you feel like you’re cheating when you do what feels easy and enjoyable? I’ve been cycling more again lately and there are stretches where I happily (sometimes no handedly) freewheel down mentally singing Wheeeeeee. And (up until the past couple of days where I haven’t needed to) there’ve been…

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