No one’s broken beyond repair. There is more to you than whatever you have survived. And just because others may go through worse doesn’t mean you don’t deserve support. When we think of trauma, we might think of extreme cases like people being bombed or being at war, natural disasters like earthquakes, tsunamis and wildfires.
Post Traumatic Stress (I prefer the term PTS to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD) is a normal response to having survived something abnormal. Symptoms obviously differ depending on what you’ve survived and how often. Complex trauma (sometimes called Complex PTSD) can sound (and feel, when living with it) more challenging but you can learn self-care tools for complex trauma, too.
Sexual assault or abuse, physical abuse, bullying, domestic violence… the list of ways in which humans harm others is a long one. Physiologically, surviving trauma can affect the way we see everything and our resulting hypervigilance can make life feel incredibly challenging. Fortunately, we have an amazing capacity to heal. Though this is different for everyone, should never be forced and can take a long time, Post Traumatic Growth can mean some people begin to see what felt unliveable with as a gift of sorts.
A house fire in my 30s (electrical fault) meant that while I’d known something hadn’t been right pretty much my whole life (and I’d been scared to talk to counsellors or anyone else about all of it), I suddenly learned some language around what I’d actually been feeling from early childhood. It was this, having already trained as a complementary therapist and coach, that led me to my psychosynthesis counselling training. I was terrified of the personal therapy I knew I’d need to have and imagine there’s a part of you that might feel scared about opening up about your own trauma/s.
What I didn’t know then but tell all my clients, especially trauma survivors, is that it’s your time and space. While I will ask some questions, it’s up to you what you choose to answer, how much you want to share and the ways of working which feel most appealing and safe for you. Also, while I waited until I’d already been coaching and was an NLP Master Practitioner before feeling ready to ‘delve deeper’ – a process I assumed would be horrifying and out of my control, trauma recovery can be gentle.
You have already survived. This is about supporting you in exploring residual feelings and thoughts about it and teaching you tools you can use when you feel flooded, scared and like you might never be OK again. Trauma therapy, trauma sensitive yoga, trauma sensitive mindfulness and trauma sensitive coaching can help you help yourself. PTSD self-care and trauma self help is especially helpful as, often, it impacts our capacity to trust others. I want to support you in being able to help yourself.
I love being able to share the self-care tools for trauma that helped me with people like you. Would you like:
- A safe, confidential space to begin to explore your feelings and thoughts about what you’ve been through and anything else that is having an impact?
- To learn and practice mind/body and energy work tools to help you help yourself – anytime, anywhere? 80% of the signals between the body and brain go up from the body, via the Vagus nerve, to the brain. It’s much more effective (and easy) to move or breathe ourselves into feeling safe than to tell ourselves how we should be feeling.
- To explore potential triggers and causes?
- To make peace with your past?
- To make positive changes to your life by putting your recovery and growth first?
- To learn to soothe yourself more easily?
- To look at how any self-harming behaviours may have been an attempt to help yourself feel safe (and to find healthier alternatives)?
- To remember that whatever you’ve survived, you’re more than your trauma?
- With practice, to retrain your autonomic nervous system and rewire your brain so that it’s much easier to relax, sleep better and trust yourself and life?
- And more?
All my work is collaborative so the choice about the direction we take and tools you learn is entirely up to you. The fact that you’re even reading this, looking for support and knowing you can improve things is a big step.
I use a range of tools (click HERE for more information) depending on what you want support with and the ways of working you’re most drawn to.
You can also access several more self care for trauma ideas HERE
Whether you opt for Single Session Therapy (often, trauma work takes longer but I know I would have loved a one off session to learn some basic tools to support me until I felt ready to have longer term counselling), have short, mid-term or longer term counselling for trauma or self-care coaching for trauma, you will learn simple and effective tools to help you support yourself through Post Traumatic Stress.
The videos below are clips from my studio guest slot about working with trauma with trauma sensitive yoga and EFT as well as psychosynthesis counselling. The live webcast was after Michael Gavin’s workshop at the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Private Practice conference on trauma in London (September 2015 with studio co-hosts Anne Scoging and Karen Lloyd).
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