Self care for better boundaries and honouring the ‘broken barks’

When you’re new to setting boundaries, you’ll likely overcorrect then beat yourself up for being so clumsy. I hope the tips in this blog post help you have more compassion for your inner puppy as you get better at using your voice… I listened to this gorgeous podcast recently and…

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Some highlight’s from BACP’s supervision conference, June 2022

It was delightful to be back in London last week for BACP’s Supervision conference focusing on the joys as well as challenges of supervision. My first In Person conference since before Covid! Dr Michelle Seabrook on the role of supervision in supervisee wellbeing Because my whole practice is based around…

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How novelty helps our brains

Babies’ brains are taking in soooo much new information, they develop enormously. In the past few decades, neuroscience and research around neuroplasticity have shown that we can impact healthy brain development right up until we die! And novelty helps to create new neural connections. Do you remember those early days…

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Are you able to care for that vulnerable, needy part of yourself?

This week, we’re doing more shadow work, connecting with our inner emotionally snotty selves. I know. Almost scarier than connecting with that higher, wiser more miraculous self but just as potent… Lizzo has been such an amazing role model for me – listening to that phenomenal voice, her lyrics, her…

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Putting yourself in the way of beauty

Give your Self a break. That Highest, Wisest, Truest most Miraculous, Wildest part of yourself needs nourishment. As Cheryl Strayed’s mother used to say (inspiring her journey in Wild), ‘Put yourself in the way of beauty.’ What might that be? For me, the sea always hits the spot. The sea…

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What helps you when you CAN’T do your favourite self care practice?

This week’s blog post encourages you to have a plan b in case your equivalent of sea swimming vanishes. When something works well, it might need additional practices to counter its (hopefully temporary) loss. I’ve written about the importance of having a spectrum of self care practices to help you…

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Mini mindfulness self care supports

Yes, I called my practice Feel Better Every Day but sometimes, this means letting ourselves cry / sleep / curl up under the duvet (or in an underground tunnel of earth). Everything is information. Let yourself cry Your tears may come easily. They may need help. They may be so…

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Do you believe you DESERVE self care?

How do you approach self care practices when you tell yourself you ‘should’ or when you say (about the same practices) you ‘deserve’ it? I remember writing the introduction to the book back in 2016 and making it clear that each idea was simply an option, not yet more ‘shoulds’…

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Can cats make us kinder? I think so!

This week, Rainbow MagnifiCat is inspiring me to extend the patience and adoration I naturally feel for her for more of my fellow humans… I’m not suggesting we ignore the need for healthy boundaries and that we don’t do everything we need to do in order to maintain them BUT,…

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What helps you stop arguing with reality?

One of my favourite things to do, when feeling stuck in any area of life, is to ask myself what might an imaginary More Well-adjusted Me do (instead of falling into unhelpful old patterns). This blog post has more self care coaching ideas to help you assess each situation for…

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