Friday 13th is considered unlucky by some and yet its associations with the Norse Goddess Frigga (sometimes known as Freya) mean many consider it to be an especially powerful day for women. This week, we’re exploring ways in which you (whatever your gender!) can reclaim your power and enhance your GOOD luck…
How might you amp up your self care today (and every day)?
Freya, a goddess of pleasure, reminds us to amp up all kinds of self care. To indulge in ways that feel good.
And 13, one of my lucky numbers but one considered by many to be UNlucky, is also associated with the divine feminine as there are 13 lunar cycles every year.
Tracking your menstrual cycle – if you have one – can be a wonderful way of getting to know your own body, moods, energy levels and more. You’ll likely feel luckier as you stop working against your body and instead schedule as much as possible around different times of the month where you feel more energised, outgoing, reflective, focused etc etc.
While many consider the date to be unlucky, increasing numbers of people, especially women, are using the day to reclaim their power.
But if you’re simply pretending to enjoy the date instead of delighting in it, you’re likely to take less pleasure in it.
If you have ANY hesitation around the day, why not Tap (EFT) on it? You can find out more and access additional EFT Tap Along scripts and videos HERE but a simple set up statement might be, ‘Even though I’m afraid of Friday 13th, I deeply and completely love and accept myself…’
Acknowledging the superstition or ANY limiting belief is the first step in addressing the deeper issue.
And if you need additional help, there are many therapists who specialise in phobias – help IS available for you.
For many people, simply making such limiting beliefs conscious is enough to reclaim your own power – whatever your gender.
How might you step into your power more today?
I’m not talking about the old-fashioned, on its way out ‘power OVER’ definition of the exploitative power that’s behind so much horror, but your inner power. The kind of power that not only lifts you but helps others.
What springs to mind? How might you support yourself in doing so?
Imagine your life if you’d been raised to honour and appreciate your strength and power instead of prioritising being nice and polite?
How do you feel when you consider the idea that many hold around Friday 13th being a day to celebrate women and ALL (consensual, joyful) sexual energy?
Do you stand taller?
What about when you think of ways to avoid bad luck?
Do you contract?
This simple somatic example may show how limiting this and other beliefs maybe.
It may seem like a silly, rare date issue but it’s symbolic of all sorts of ways in which you might be holding yourself back for no good reason.
The patriarchy’s fear of female power is a TERRIBLE reason to hold yourself back and yet understandable. Be patient with yourself as you step more and more into your own power.
Richard Wiseman’s book, The Luck Factor, explores beliefs and behaviour around luck and how what we tell ourselves about how lucky, or unlucky, we are really matters.
Obviously, systemic issues come into play and this is definitely not dismissing all the inequalities in the world and decks stacked against marginalised groups AT ALL.
But his findings show how two people in the same situation handle things decidedly differently.
They set up various experiments. In one, two people were supposed to meet someone who wasn’t there when they arrived.
The first person felt irritated and sighed while the second person made conversation with the people around and got some kind of lucky break as a result of doing so.
A ‘lucky’ person noticed money on the ground (with no way of tracing who had lost it) and cheerfully accepted it as good luck.
A self described ‘unlucky’ person walked over the same money apparently not even noticing it.
Wiseman’s findings showed that people who believed themselves to be lucky were more open to the good the world has to offer.
Obviously, with unprocessed, unhealed trauma, the world feels far from safe so it’s an incredibly advanced practice to believe in the goodness of life when it’s been so painful.
That being said, trauma recovery is possible and simply moving from believing yourself to be an unlucky person to opening up into a luckier human experience is also possible.
When I think about my life now, several examples (I won’t bore you) would have had Younger Me feeling resigned to my bad luck.
Back then, I’d have felt helpless and hopeless. Now, I surrender as much as possible while doing all I can to improve each situation.
They’re not FUN to deal with and they ARE a bit of a pain but my life is so much more expansive, I still think of myself as enormously lucky.
This leaves me in a better state of mind to connect with my resourcefulness and to get them sorted. (Wish me luck!)
What are your favourite symbols around luck?
Whether you believe in good luck and bad luck or not, if you place a horseshoe, 4 leaf clover or any symbol for good luck that resonates for you somewhere visible, with the intention of opening up to better luck, every time you see it offers a reminder to yourself to become luckier.
I spent a year in the US as a child (6th grade – 10/11 years old) and remember a school project about superstitions.
Learning at such an early age that something could be simultaneously considered good luck (black cat) and bad luck (bad luck) in different places meant I took them both less seriously and recognised the obvious AMAZING luck that black cats can bring to a human – thank you, Rainbow MagnifiCat]
Make a list of some of the superstitions you believe in
Get CURIOUS about where your beliefs come from.
It might be something that everyone around you believes or it may be something that, when you voice it, you realise even your siblings and other close people are amused.
Research them a little. Find out where they come from.
Choose for yourself whether or not it serves you in any way to continue to believe it.
Take inspiration from Byron Katie and The Work and investigate each thought:
- Is it (the thought) true?
- Can you ABSOLUTELY know that it’s true?
- How do you react when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without that thought?
Notice how each belief impacts your behaviour and words. If it’s not life enhancing, release it with gratitude and enjoy more freedom in life.
What is the funniest superstition you’ve heard and/or believe/d in?
Feel free to email eve@selfcarecoaching.net to let me know.
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With love,
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